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241. 25 Dec 2009 20:48 | ||
So, to us ... the one room seems to be all that there is. When someone dies, they leave the room and to us ... they seem to be gone. We can't hear their voice anymore, see them smile, so we think they are gone but maybe ... maybe they are in a room right next door to us. Maybe that room is heaven. Maybe to US it seems very far away, very unreal ... but maybe it's like the nun told me about my Grandam ... she said, "Your grandma is with you more now than she was when she was alive." |
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242. 25 Dec 2009 20:50 | ||
I don't understand. |
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243. 25 Dec 2009 20:54 | ||
Tater, you feel the way you do because you're a loving human. And yes, it's always a terrible place to be in when someone you love passes away. You will honor your friend by never forgetting her, and time eventually makes the hurt more bearable. It's a lot to ask of one so young, and I am sorry you're going through this. |
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244. 25 Dec 2009 20:54 | ||
Well, I can't say I understand either but I do believe this with all my heart ... when we cry and when we laugh we help ourselves and we help others. So, there is nothing wrong with how you feel right now. |
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245. 25 Dec 2009 20:57 | ||
I think our bodies get in the way of our really paying attention to the inner parts of ourselves and of each other. |
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246. 25 Dec 2009 20:58 | ||
What should i do? I keep feeling i should do something, or should of done something. |
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247. 25 Dec 2009 20:58 | ||
I want to share a story with you. If that's not what you need right now, then come back some other day and read it then. (I probably need to tell this story to make *me* feel better, so forgive me for that.) Anyway, here's a story about when my grandma died. |
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248. 25 Dec 2009 21:02 | ||
I just want her back. |
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249. 25 Dec 2009 21:05 | ||
(smiling slowly...) Thanks, marius... I love that concept. |
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250. 25 Dec 2009 21:08 | ||
Oh Tater... I know. I have a number of people I want back... and I've stood there and said that soooooooo intensely! |
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251. 25 Dec 2009 21:08 | ||
.I just want her back. |
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252. 25 Dec 2009 21:08 | ||
What should you do, Tater? You've done a lot already by being a friend. You can do more by keeping your friend in your heart, as others have suggested. Do the things you know Allie would enjoy, and think of her. Whenever someone I love passes away, I always ask myself if I could have done more, and I try to love those who are still living even more. Each day is precious, and if we resolve to love our friends and family to the fullest each day, I believe we'll all be okay. |
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253. 25 Dec 2009 21:08 | ||
Of course you want her back. Strange thing, in time I think you'll feel that she is back. It won't be like before ... but kind of like Qsilv said. |
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254. 25 Dec 2009 21:10 | ||
But I believe I understand wanting her back..... |
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255. 25 Dec 2009 21:12 | ||
People say that it will be okay. I don't think i will. |
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256. 25 Dec 2009 21:14 | ||
Be right back- about 11:30 |
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257. 25 Dec 2009 21:15 | ||
Yep, people say all kinds of things. The point is ... it hurts very deeply, impossibly deeply and I know when I hurt that bad, it feels like it will never stop, like it will never be okay again. |
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258. 25 Dec 2009 21:19 | ||
People have good intentions when they say things, I believe. They care, and it might not sound like they're saying the right thing, but they're trying in their own way. We care about you, Tater, and will keep you in our thoughts. I have to go now, but will come back later, too. Thanks, marius, and Qsilv, for your caring and insights. |
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259. 25 Dec 2009 21:22 | ||
Ok... here's some hard truth bad news most people won't tell you-- |
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260. 25 Dec 2009 21:23 | ||
Ahh sweet tater, we have grandkids tomorrow and it's 1:30 a.m. here. So, I'm gonna turn in. But, before I go, I want to thank you for talking about this tonight. Everyone loses someone to death in time, and the thing is ... when people share their joys and their difficulties, it always helps me. You have helped me tonight even if I don't have the words to tell you how ... you have, and I thank you for that! I hope you have a peaceful sleep! |